If you have no real notion of what a systemic/family constellation is, you could do a lot worse than
watch a few episodes of Another Self, the Turkish Netflix series. It's a drama about three friends who find a Family Constellations facilitator, Mr Zaman. It is beautifully shot on various gorgeous sunkissed locations in Turkey, and the main protagonists are equally watchable. Someone had their tongue slightly in cheek when fabricating names for the characters. Mr Zaman = Mr Time, and Ada Korkmaz - you just won't believe it, is Island Never-afraid, and guess what - she is a surgeon dedicated to her profession and science, who cannot feel or cannot face her feelings or her life events. Until...
Although the essence of systemic constellations is well represented in the series, there are some aspects 'we' i.e. facilitators trained by Yildiz Sethi (and others) do differently. For example, the seeker/issue holder does not point at someone in the circle to be a Representative. The client approaches the desired Representative with, 'would you be/represent my mother?'
There is right of refusal. and no threat of being asked to leave the circle if the person does not want to Represent. Every level of participation is voluntary. Episode 4 in the first series reveals the reason for the Turkish title, Zeytin Agaci, that is, Olive Tree. Zaman takes Korkmaz on a bike ride from the village to his olive grove, where he tends to a sickening tree. Here he expounds to the aggressively sceptical Doctor Korkmaz, the metaphor of deep and old roots and the state of the above ground tree as equivalent to human life and familial systems . She does, however, close her hand around the small green olive placed there by Zaman in magnificent close up . We also see her estranged husband, Selim, who has turned up to 'take her home', thrashing against the revelations of a constellation formed for him in Zaman's circle - the childhood trauma of an earthquake in which his mother dies, as the root of his adult relationship rigidity, and his huge expectations of his wife, the lovely Ada - but he's not having it... yet. I'm looking forward to subsequent episodes of Zeytin Agaci/Another Self for all reasons: the family constellations core; the funny, messy, normal characters and their loving friendship; the stunning scenery and buildings, the feeling of being back in Turkey and hearing Turkish. I lived there on the Aegean coast with my deeply wounded Turkish husband for a while, but that's another story! If you would like to step into the healing space of Family Constellations:
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Appointments Monday to Thursday 10-5, Friday 10-3, and other time zones catered. I am in Aotearoa-New Zealand. Global reach, English language.
Karen Sole Copyright Karen Sole
Karen Sole is a member of the Internatonal Institute for Complementary Therapists, and of the International Systemic Constellations Association (isca-network.org). She took her first training from Yildiz Sethi yildizsethi.com of familyconstellations.com.au . Karen's profile can be found on all three organisational sites.
References
Netflix Another Self
Yildiz Sethi www.yildiizsethi.com and www.familyconstellations.com.au
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